The forbidden fruit tastes the sweetest 30 November 2009
What should I begin with? When should I begin? How should I begin? Should I ever begin at all? Those and many others are the questions that parents face, when their children reach a certain age. Discussing sexual issues is not easy at all.
Parents who deny their children a sexual education must be aware that they can't stop their kids from getting all the information they need- there are friends, school, the street and of course the Internet. A child’s interest in sex is completely normal- it is a result of the constantly ticking biological clock. And that is why parents can influence the formation of a proper idea for sex. Of course, if they want to.
Every parent can decide for himself if his child is ready for such information. It should be noted that the child’s age is being underestimated very often, because parents consider him too young. Some parents can use this excuse for too long, postponing the discussion of the delicate topic for as much as possible. It must be admitted that most parents feel embarrassed. In fact, sometimes, when we undress in the doctor's office or in the common locker room at the pool, we feel embarrassed too, which is completely normal. But in this case, we don’t just leave, avoiding the sense of embarrassment. We should overcome this embarrassment if we want to warn our children of possible mistakes.
There is one more thought that disturbs parents- the worry about how should they explain to their children. How should they avoid frightening their children with unnecessary details? Often, when it comes to sex education, a detailed lecture on the anatomy, physiology, birth, etc begins. These are the issues that are being emphasized. In his book “Sexuality in adolescence-a guide for parents" J.Gale, an American psychotherapist, writes that such worries are useless: "One of the most common causes for such worries is the fear that enlightening the child about the secrets of sex and other similar issues will raise up his sexual interest and excessive activity. Another question that disturbs parents is: "Do I know enough to be able to explain to my own child?" Mothers and fathers ask themselves this question, thinking they don't have enough specialized knowledge to answer their children’s questions. Explanations on sex require not only tactfulness, but also carefully selected words and phrases that are related to the general knowledge of parents, teachers and everyone involved in the upbringing of the child.
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