A therapy called Mommy 30 November 2009
"The best medicine for a sick child is his mother. A mother can help her child handle everything, even a severe disease" says B. Drapkin, a child psychiatrist.
A mother and her child are psycho-emotionally connected. When there is something wrong with her child, mommy can feel it. She begins to worry. When mommy is away, her child cannot eat or sleep well, he becomes capricious. A child is a mirror of his mother’s love. If he is loved, he is happy and he will grow up normally. However, if a child does not receive enough maternal love, he suffers from mental, neurological and physical disorders. Of course we cannot say that all diseases are caused entirely by the lack of maternal love, but such lack can be at least one of the causes for child sickness. A child who doesn’t feel loved becomes naughty, capricious, does not behave himself. He may begin to stammer or pee in bed. And if he happens to get sick, treatment without maternal love will be slow and difficult. On the other hand, if mommy gives him all her love, his chances for quick rehabilitation grow significantly.
A mother should love her child, no matter if he is naughty or not, sick or healthy. She should not lay down conditions, such as “I will love you only if you become such and such". Doctors say that a mother should love her child without any reserves.
But how can a mother make her child feel immensely loved? Psychotherapists believe there are two ways: through eyes and touch. A mother should look with love into her child’s eyes as much as possible, she should touch him with love as much as possible, she should caress him. Drapkin also says that a mother should not be separated from her child until at least the child turns two. If during this time, she goes to work and leaves her child to his grandmother, to a baby sitter or day nursery, the flow of maternal love is interrupted and as a result, the child is getting sick, he is not growing up normally, he is not eating or sleeping well.
Another very important thing is the maternal voice. The child has been listening to it since the fifth month in his mother's womb and he recognizes his mother's voice better than any other sound. When the child is born, he will realize that his mother's voice is very emotional and he will be able to distinguish all its intonations. Maternal voice becomes the child's inner voice. And it is exactly this inner voice that makes the child happy, healthy and helps him grow up well. However, if the mother requires too much from her child and she scolds him too often, she unintentionally puts on standby the program "failures and diseases".
These are new psychotherapeutic methods, which have been developed, patented and acknowledged in the society of child psychiatrists in Russia, as well as approved by the Ministry of Health.
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